Day 53

Level 2 Chi Kung. Microcosmic orbit. Got a pedicure. Jade egg practice.

I woke up smiling this morning, after dreaming that I was sitting at my desk doing Connirae Andreas’ new Wholeness Process and experiencing total boundless bliss.

I am taking this as a sign that the unconscious mind is finally (finally!) happy with the way the conscious mind is running things. So, all I had to do was … leave my job, get loads of exercise, spend a week in Crete, and do Chi Kung (until my tendons ache) and Jade Egg every day. Simple really …

Bought sandals for Jack, track shoes for Dash and a small half-price toaster for travel – it’s a tough universe out there and Jack needs to know where his next slice of toast and marmite is coming from. It was fortunate that I had brought 30 jars of the black stuff back from NZ prior to the earthquake so we had sufficient to last through marmageddon. Wandered home with the kids through more brilliant sunshine, and did a bit more packing before the beautiful Madalina arrived just in time for family movie. Maddy will be house and dog sitting while we are away – a real win-win as she is living in a shared flat with no garden at the moment and is looking forward to having a whole house and garden to herself – and she has wanted a dog since childhood and never had one. Sherlock liked her immediately and I’m sure he will be much more at ease in his own home than boarding. Family movie tonight was Frozen (again). I wasn’t expecting to like, much less approve of, Frozen – after all it is a Disney film about princesses – but I have to admit to being grudgingly impressed. The imperilled Princess Anna is told that she can be saved only by an act of true love – and assumes, as does the audience, that this means a snog from the greasy Prince Hans. But, betrayed by Hans, Anna saves HERSELF by an act of heroism, not in aid of some undeserving guy (a la The Little Mermaid) but to defend her sister. Whatever Disney paid for Pixar, they got a bargain – and Frozen has John Lasseter’s fingerprints all over it.

Day 52

A day of such beautiful weather that even a walk to the local shops is a treat: bright sunshine, a warm breeze, clear blue skies with just sufficient fluffy white clouds to make a good photograph. It was Nick’s day to go cycling out into the countryside but the rest of us had a lazy start to the day with Katie coming to snuggle in bed with me and asking for stories about when the children were younger – I have a stock of these and the children never seem to tire of hearing them. This segued into looking at old photos on the computer for another hour or so. Finally went downstairs and made everyone their choice of breakfast about 10 am, then negotiated an hour without interruptions and went back upstairs to do Level 2 Chi Kung – Body and Mind Method and the microcosmic orbit. Very satisfying progress today and afterwards I managed to teach Katie how to stand on one foot (which I had noticed her struggling with when she was trying to copy me doing chi kung a few days ago). I’m aware that, for most people, balance is associated with the ears, but for me it is definitely visual. And, as I’m guessing that Katie probably has my extra-wiggly ear canals, I thought balancing visually might work for her too. It certainly did – she spent much of the rest of the day casually standing on one leg like a stork! After Nick got home (flushed with triumph after achieving a very good time on one part of the route (in the top ten of some league table of networked cyclists) we took the children to the local shops and got shorts for Jack and Dash and new bathing suits for Jack and Katie. As sometimes happens, it was cheaper to buy designer shorts on half price sale than to buy normal shorts at normal price – so the boys will be swanning around Italy in designer shorts this summer! We’ve just got to get new sandals for Jack and then we’ll be sorted. When we got home Katie was desperate to try out her new swimsuit so I took a book, some nice blue cheese, and a glass of wine down to supervise her in the pool. Later I finished all the children’s packing while Nick put the finishing touches to the automatic watering – it feels weird to be organised this far in advance, but I could definitely get used to it!

Day 51

A cruisy day. Level 2 Chi Kung Body and Mind Method. Microcosmic orbit. Jade egg practice. All good. Booked some theatre tickets, sat on the swing seat with Katie and did cloud-gazing (one of her favourite pastimes) and starting packing the children’s clothes for Italy. We don’t normally start packing until about midnight the night before we leave but this time I decided that it would be a pleasant change to be organised. Plus the children have all been growing so fast (must be all that good compost I spread around their feet) that I thought it might be prudent to check what still fits them while we still have a little time to shop before we leave. Nick has been busy sorting out the automatic watering to keep all the newly-planted stuff going while we are away. Tomorrow we are going to buy a small, lightweight toaster to take with us. Toast is essential to Jack’s happiness and we haven’t forgotten the struggle to obtain it on our last trip to Naples!

Day 50

Sherlock and I walked Dash and Katie to art class then pottered home to a peaceful hour of watering and weeding. Level 2 Chi Kung – Body and Mind Method was noticeably more comfortable today and – amazingly – in the part where it goes “and if your hands don’t reach the floor, then just imagine that they do”, suddenly, what did I feel under my fingers but floorboards! Microcosmic orbit was lovely – all the various coloured energies showed up on cue – and very energising. Jade egg practice went well. The rest of the day wasn’t quite so much fun as I struggled to sort out a mess caused by my very slow and not particularly ept estate agent back in Christchurch.

Since the article Richard Bolstad posted about sharing, the universe seems to be drawing my attention to sharing-type issues. First there was the elderly couple outside Giraffe who wanted to “share” our patch of shade to the extent that we were edged completely out of it. Then last night at the theatre, there was the person who had bought a standing ticket, but thought everyone in the row should scrunch up so that she could have a seat! Then I remembered an incident years ago in Covent Garden at one of those cafes where one buys food at the counter and then finds a table – which of course carries the risk that one ends up wandering around with a heavy tray and nowhere to sit. There is a delicate etiquette involved in avoiding this situation – one wants to reserve a table by leaving something on it, but that something needs to be unattractive to thieves. Thus leaving a handbag or briefcase on the table is asking to be robbed, but a newspaper or a fairly ordinary item of clothing is probably safe enough. On the day in question I left a pristine just-purchased copy of The Guardian and a sweatshirt. 15 minutes later, after a long queue for food, I returned to find a bunch of antipodeans sitting at my table – they had thrown my sweatshirt on the ground and were happily reading my newspaper. They wouldn’t budge and only very reluctantly returned the newspaper!

Day 49

First let me say that I love it when it’s so warm that you can walk home at twenty to midnight in a sleeveless silk top and not feel the slightest regret at not having brought a jacket.

Sherlock and I walked Dash to his art class and, on the way home, Sherlock once again did his best impression of a well-trained dog with beautiful manners – for about one third of the way. The rest of the way he went back to his usual pattern of either dawdling or doing his best to drag me along the footpath at breakneck speed. Level 2 Chi Kung – Body and Mind Method. MIcrocosmic orbit. Both went well, and the microcosmic orbit was particularly enjoyable.

I was pleasantly surprised when, at 4:30pm, I arrived at my doctor’s – after an afternoon of rushing, a mad dash across London, and a brisk run up two flights of stairs – and my blood pressure was 105 over 68! Very gratifying.

Dinner at Baltic with Nick Curnow, then across to the Young Vic for an amazing production of A Streetcar Named Desire. I was good to see Harry Medawar and meet Nicola Seager Medawar – though slightly confusing to discover that they had the same seats as us – a glitch born out of Harry’s generosity in booking the tickets for me when they were only open to Friends of the Young Vic! It was all resolved and no one had to sit in anyone else’s lap – which was all to the good.

Day 48

Dropped Dash and Katie at their art class just after nine – the cat-herding was more difficult than usual today so we were a little late. It astounds me what a production two intelligent, capable children can make out of having a wash, brushing teeth, and putting some clothes on. Having been left at home yesterday (on account of dogs not being allowed at the funfair) Sherlock was very happy and grateful to be allowed to join us this morning. This translated (briefly!) into some “look at me, I’m a well-behaved doggy and I really belong at Crufts” behaviour, trotting prettily beside me on a slack lead. Back home after dropping the children off, I got on with the Body and Mind Method, Microcosmic Orbit and jade egg practice. The change in focus makes such a difference – Body and Mind Method went really well today – a huge improvement on earlier in the week. And, for the first time, the microcosmic orbit was pleasantly trance-y, I guess all the various breathing, tightening, clenching etc has now become sufficiently routine for the visualisation to get a bit more brain-room .

I got my NZ tax return completed – yay – and started on the next piece of tedious admin. I collected the children from art class, taking Sherlock along so that we could give him a good romp on the Heath on the way home. Foolishly I allowed myself to be persuaded to buy the kids an early dinner at Giraffe on the way home, in spite of the fact that, having Sherlock along, we would have to sit at the outdoor tables. Fortunately there was one table in the shade and, after the regulation amount of faffing about, all of us, including Sherlock, were eventually seated in at least partial shade. We had just ordered, and Sherlock had been provided with a bowl of water, when an elderly couple approached and asked if I would mind if they sat at the next table, one of the ones we had rejected as being in full sun. I couldn’t understand why they were asking – we weren’t using the table they wanted – but then they asked could we move our chairs a bit, a bit more, just a bit more, so that they could sit in the shade – while we baked. Giraffe’s notoriously slow service takes on a whole new meaning when one is roasting alive. The children were slightly stunned when I asked for the bill as soon as the food had been delivered and vetoed all requests for pudding and extra rounds of drinks. I was completely focused on finding some shade – not least because poor old Sherlock doesn’t get to take off his fur coat. It was a relief to get out on the Heath, where at least there was a breeze and Sherlock could run and run with his spaniel’s ear flapping out behind. The part of the Heath near the village was packed, which is a pain when you can’t easily predict who is going to cuddle the dog and whisper sweet nothings in his ear and who is going to start yelling “control that brute” or “get him away from me”. In general young people are more likely to react positively than old people, and light-skinned people are more likely to react positively than dark-skinned people – but there are no guarantees. So, in rather curmudgeonly fashion, I said something like “Hmph, all these people cluttering up our heath.” but Katie immediately came up with a brilliant, if rather self-serving, reframe: “Mummy, I can think of something good about all these people cluttering up the heath. All these people probably buy ice cream, which means the ice cream truck will stay around!”. I was quite impressed with this – a level of understanding which had proved completely beyond people who bought homes and baches in Akaroa, attracted by the lively cafe and restaurant scene, and then decided that they hated the plagues of tourists – completely missing the point that the restaurants and cafes only existed BECAUSE of the tourists!

Arrived home so hot that all I wanted to do was sit in the path of the fan and drink lots of cold water – which provided a perfect opportunity to get my second tedious admin task all sorted and sent away, and then attack the pile of stuff waiting to be filed. For the first time in a couple of years, I really can’t think of any admin-type thing I should be doing. Feels good.

Listening to a radio item on ebola while I did the filing, I took a moment to feel grateful that I no longer have any responsibility for clinical countermeasures.

Day 47

Level 2 Chi Kung – Body and Mind Method. Microcosmic Orbit. Jade egg practice. The Body and Mind Method went much better today – I have been focusing on the bits I find very challenging (not to mention hurt-y) and suddenly thought that it might be a whole lot more helpful to pay attention to the bits where I am aware of improvement every day. Duh!!!

A lovely cruise-y day with the kids. We all slept in and had a leisurely morning before heading to the funfair on Blackheath. A surreal conversation with Dash on the way to the funfair:

me: I’m happy – it’s a lovely day and I am with my two favourite people.
Dash: Your two favourite people?
me: Well, two of my favourite people. Of course Jack and Daddy are my favourites too.
Dash: What about Sherlock?
me: Well, Sherlock isn’t my favourite the way you and Katie and Jack and Daddy are my favourites.
Dash: Why?
me (starting to feel a little on the back foot): I don’t know. I guess because he’s a dog?
Dash (sounding upset): Oh!
me: Do you think that’s bad?
Dash: Yes! That must be why he bites us, because he’s jealous that you don’t love him as much as your other children.
me: What do you think I could do to make Sherlock feel better?
Dash: You could spend some special time with just you and Sherlock.

Dash had a great time on all the rides – Kate was a bit more cautious, which was lovely as Dash got to be the hero-big-brother. By the time we were done with the funfair, there was no wind, so the kids had ice cream and I had cranberry tea while we waited to see if the wind would come up enough to get the kites off the ground. No wind, but Katie was determined, so I got one of the kites out for her and let her find out for herself how exhausting it is to fly a kite when there is no wind. Eventually even Katie had had enough and we took the long way home across the Heath. Katie then splashed about in the pool for an hour while I “supervised” from a prone position on the trampoline. Spent a lovely hour weeding, deadheading and watering in the cool of the evening, with a beautiful sunset lighting up the sky, then had some alone-time with Sherlock. The things we do for love!

Day 46

Cool with light rain this morning, brightening into another lovely day. Dropped Kate and Dash at art class. Level 2 Chi Kung – Body and Mind Method (very difficult today – had to remind myself that Lift Chi Up once felt difficult and is now as comfortable as a pair of old slippers). Microcosmic orbit. Jade egg practice. Extreme dog walking.

Have been feeling a strong urge to up-sticks and move to Crete (Nick could work remotely, I could grow figs and write a light-hearted “life in Crete” column for The Guardian) so I thought I’d better do something to remind myself of why I like living here! I got the NZ tax return underway, then took Sherlock with me when I went to collect the kids and we all went for a long walk on the heath. There were some people flying kites, including one guy kite-buggying, which looked amazing. We talked to him when he paused for a bit and I asked how long he had been doing it to get that good. He said 21 years and that he sometimes gives lessons on the heath but that I would probably be better to learn on holiday on a nice flat stretch of beach somewhere. I agreed that I would probably prefer to try it somewhere where all the school-gate mummies aren’t going to see me!

When Sherlock was a bit younger, a 45 minute walk was enough to completely tire him out. Today I walked him for over 3 hours altogether and he was almost as lively at the end as at the start. I wish I could say the same!

Day 45

Another gorgeous day. Level 2 Chi Kung – Body and Mind Method (some parts definitely more difficult in bare feet). Microcosmic orbit. Jade egg practice. Katie’s party. Relax-tivity (strolling and talking) with Nick Curnow.

As of yesterday we had had only one positive response to the party invitations, from Felix and his parents. Katie was a bit disappointed: ‘Oh, so it will be more of a play-date than a party” but then did an instant reframe ‘but luckily Felix is the most fun, so having him will be like having a whole bunch of children”. We moved some of the outdoor furniture down to the shady area by the pool and trampoline and prepared trays of drinks and nibbles. Katie and Felix hurtled from pool to trampoline and back, occasionally cruising for party food en route, while we chatted with Felix’s parents, who seem very nice, drank Cloudy Bay and nibbled on a perfectly ripe camembert and a bowl of strawberries. In due course Katie whispered to me that she thought it was time for cake and very carefully and solemnly cut slices and served everyone. One of the benefits of a Montessori education is that she takes hostessing very seriously and does it beautifully!

Tomorrow I will suggest to Katie that if next time she involves me in planning the party from the start, I might be able to use my grown-up-type wiles to help her pick a date when more people can come.

Day 44

A hot summer’s day in beautiful Blackheath. Level 2 Chi Kung – Body and Mind Method. Microcosmic orbit. Jade egg practice. Tidying, cooking, fruit and veg market. Very hot so happy to sit in the shade at the back of the garden supervising Katie in the inflatable pool. It is a bit far from the house this year for her to go in without someone supervising, so we have put an old garden seat down there so that the supervising adult can sit and read. However Katie would happily stay in the pool for hours and it wasn’t long before I was wishing that the seat was a bit more comfy… Then it occurred to me that I could supervise just as easily from a recumbent position on the trampoline … Very relaxing.